LET'S TALK ABOUT GODPARENTS IN ORACLE AND ORISA
Aboru, Aboye, Abosise and greetings to all devotees of Ifa,Orisa, and Egungun .
Let it be known from the start, there is no such thing as godparents in the Oracle, Orisa, and Egungun study, practice and worship. This myth hails from Catholocism, the Catholic church has created this concept of parenting. In the catholic church the biological parents of a child will choose two individuals a male and a female. It is not even necessary that the two individuals are married. These two individuals pledge allegiance to this child in a christening ceremony, that if anything should happen to the biological parents the godparents will step in and assume the continuing rearing of the child.
Note: you have the right to call anyone by any label, sticker, tag, or title that you so choose. But know and understand there is no godparent concept in Oracle and Orisa.
An Oracle is built and established on a premise of teachers and students in which the entitlement is clear and speaks for itself loudly. How is one to reap the great benefit of the many teachers that Oracle and Orisa have to offer if you are enslaved, tied and obligated to a godparent or godparents who are under the understanding that you are to be of great benefit to them and not them you.
Those of us who carry the name of Babalawo, Iyanifa, Babalorisa, and Olorisa are servants of the people and not to be mistaken or confused with the understanding of African royalty (kings and queens). Do not allow yourself to fall victim to the king and queen and loyal subject complex. It is time to put this myth to rest. Even Olodumare is not our father or mother, it is a creator and creation relationship. We are born with two sets of parents, biological and spiritual. Our spiritual parents are our Orisa parents. Two sets not three. A babalawo is a father, messenger, and teacher of Oracle. An iyanifa is a mother of Oracle, caretaker of the Oracle and caregiver of the people. An orisa priest/priestess is a father of orisa/mother of orisa, caretaker of orisa and caregiver of the people, etc. We must stop feeding into what is popular.
A high level of popularity is not an indication or a manifestation of truth. Most high levels of popularity come from being a person who tells a bunch of people what they want to hear and not what they need to hear. We must destroy this level of codependency that some of us have created and have allowed others to create for us. It is time to see clear and again put to rest all of this godfather, godmother, Godbrother, and Godsister madness. If you come across an Oracle elder who has a temple and you join, you have now become a member of that Oracle temple. Same rule of thumb if you join someones ile or egbe. You have now become a member of a group of individuals that have or should have sworn some form of allegiance to its leadership.
In life we walk a path on a journey to understanding our destiny and what is needed to navigate that course of action are good teachers for we are students of the multifaceted aspects of life. Stop looking for what you already have and what you want and start pursuing that which you need. You need a good teacher. You need to be a good student. Because you need divine knowledge, wisdom and understanding to set the foundation , structure, and the premise of your life's journey.
Going back, case in point, we create obstacles and roadblocks for ourselves living outside of the order and dynamic of the Oracle, Orisa and the ancestors. Under the umbrella of the godparent myth, what happens if the awo(babalawo) is unmarried and waiting on the Oracle to send him a wife and there are women in his Ile oracle that oracle is waiting to come of age and maturity mentally, physically, and spiritually in their oracle and Orisa study practice and worship understanding and one day when the awo has one of these women on the mat oracle brings to his attention that she is the one the awo is to take, love and respect as his wife. How would this now come to past? When the awo has been addressing this woman as his god-daughter. See the confusion. And it will bring about the same form of confusion when the time comes for the awo to navigate other members to each other. Again how will this come to past? if these individuals are under the impression that he/she is my Godbrother or Godsister. It will be as what it is today, a recipe for disaster.
Life is about adding not subtracting. We are to live our lives adding to the different aspects of our lives. Adding is building and building is growing strong. We must weigh the pros and cons of any given situation. Life and learning, growing and progressing in the Oracle and Orisa is common sense based. Now what I have learned in my Life is that common sense is everything but common. A good teacher will always leave a student with a clear understanding of things to the very best of that teacher's ability. if you have a teacher or teachers and you are still walking around in a state of confusion entertaining many questions that is something that you need to address. There are so many individuals who have embraced this godparent myth to such a degree that they cannot even respectfully leave the company of those who are not teaching them, growing them and progressing them, because of this godparent obligation that they have taken on. To think about leaving a so-called godparent leaves the godchild in a state of feeling that they are being unloyal and doing something wrong.
It is a mind game people. You are being played with like the cat to the mouse. These so-called godparents want a lifelong allegiance aka SLAVERY. Do not allow anyone to mentally, physically or spiritually enslave you. Anyone would gladly stay and keep the company of those who are teaching, growing and progressing them but the question is are you growing and progressing with whom you are keeping company? Allow no one to obligate you to them. If you are a part of something that does not fulfill you mentally, physically and spiritually but your position is more of a benefit to the so-called godparent and not yourself, that is a problem. In the teacher-student relationship the student is the benefactor of knowledge. In the student-teacher relationship the teacher is supposed to be of great benefit to the student and the student is of great benefit to the teacher by way of properly representing that which has been taught.
Committed I am!!! -Dr. Kongolini Zulu Mau-